Incidentally it's not that I don't like . I do. It's just that I'm not sure. Unlike most women, I'm not expecting perfect little , a perfect husband, a perfect little life. What I really think is that life is all about tradeoffs. That said I wouldn't necessarily be opposed to somebody who already has (divorced, widowed, custodial parent, non-custodial). It all depends on the fit ? the guy, the , the situation.